SANOJA'S LOVE APPEAL

Love affairs ... not only with the intention of marriage, isn't it ....Like to get friendly with a Minister -- Sanoja Bibile

     Cinema and teledrama actress Sanoja Bibile is still unmarried. Though still not married ... she has had a number of long love affairs to her credit. Sanoja who could not get married has started many love affairs by her ownself and later she dropped those. What she says is a person starts a love affair not solely for the purpose of marriage in mind. However, now she wants to get into marriage. She expresses these ideas in the following manner:

 *Did he get married?
   Yes ... he had thought ... thought and thought of me and had become very sad. Later he got married. His household also knew that there was an affair between the two of us ... I didn't attend the funeral. But .... I felt terribly sad ... when I heard that he had passed away. Our home-people vehemently opposed our association. They even boarded me in a hostel to stop this connection. We got caught to the school also. We carried on in spite of all that. Ultimately fate did not allow both of us to get together.

*Who was your next?
  My next love was a Muslim boy. He too was a boy who had nice qualities. He loved me to the utmost. He asked me to get married. But I didn't like ... because he was a Muslim. After that I got friendly with a well-known businessman in Sri Lanka .... he is also popular in the field of Arts ... he knew a lot of artistes. He was a married man and separated. More than love, I got protection from him. Being an actress, occasions where one could go astray are many. He protected me from all that. I didn't even have a vehicle to call my own those days. It was he who gave me the vehicle and protected me. He didn't send me alone anywhere. Even today he talks well with me. Though there isn't a connection between the two of us, even if I ask for some help, he does it for me.

 *Why didn't he get married?
  Actually ... he's not a suitable person for me to get married. Because of that, the connection stopped.

 *Don't you start a love with the intention of getting married?
   At that time I had not thought of marrying. I had not thought of getting married to everyone I started a love affair with. I thought that, that was not the time for it. I start a love affair because I want to love .... and not because I definitely want to get married.

 *After that
   After that also I started an affair with another married person. When he went abroad, that connection just faded away. After that ... upto now I have had no ... no connections with anybody at all.

 *When the proper time comes, the home-people and the public ask why you live a lonely life ...
   My mother is the main person who talks about that. She was even against me for acting. Like the upcountry people, relations also thought that way. When I became Miss Sri Lanka, my mother was delighted about it. Then after that, slowly and slowly she liked my acting-work. What they always said was, 'get married ... get married'. But that didn't happen upto now.

 *Your peer-group friends became brides in true life ... but you couldn't isn't it?
   That's my fate ... not that I do these things on purpose.

 *There was a rumour that you had an entanglement with a former powerful political character who is now not among the living ....
   I've had no such connection with any politician ... I can say that with responsibility. I work in a government institution. So then I have to carry out duties with Ministers. Because of that, rumours can spread. But upto now ... I have not got friendly with any politician ... but if I had a chance of getting friendly with a Minister, I'd like it.

 *Why do you like a Minister?
   No ... not that I like to marry a Minister .... because for him, it is not the family that is big for him .... it is politics that is big for him. It's difficult to lead a married life with a person like that.

 *Do you want to lead a married life?
   Really ... I like to get married. It's now that I need it. I like to get married; get away from this world of films, stay at home and lead a good family life. During y playful, naughty days I had no idea of getting married ... but now I want to get married.

 *Marriage, which was not a requirement of yours for so long ... how did it become a need of your now?
   Now I feel that loneliness. When I go somewhere, at festivals ... most of them have come there with their husbands. I go alone. From there onwards I feel lonely everywhere. When I have a problem, there's nobody to tell ... then I feel a loneliness. At times when I am at home I feel a terrible loneliness. When I go to bed also I feel a big loneliness. That loneliness ... I feel a great deal.

 *To get rid of that loneliness, are you not having a love affair with someone by now?
   No ... it's to erase that loneliness that I have engaged in studies these days. I am now doing my degree ... I like that very much. That's because of my loneliness.

 *How is marriage written about in your horoscope?
   I am not a person who believes in horoscopes. But my mother believes in these things. What is in my horoscope is that my marriage will be delayed for a long time ... but that in the end I will meet a very good person. But how that end will be ... I don't know. I think it is because of a sin of mine in my previous birth that I have no marriage in this life. Because of that I will never break up a family. Even if I get married with a married person, I'll get married after finding out what problem there is in that particular case. I am a person who leads a very simple life. I don't have the time to spend for marriages now. I have now reached my middle age.

 *Don't you like to come out from the screen, love an actor and make him your husband?
   No ... I never maintained a friendship with any actor. One actor brought me a proposal to somehow get married. He is not in the cinema now ... but I didn't like it.
   I've had no connection with people like producers, directors in the field of Arts ... that's because I know about them.  

Narration -- Ositha Attanayaka