Go to a funeral house and observe the difference between men and women - Kagama Himi

The following is an excerpt from a sermon recently preached by Kagama Sirinanda Thero.

"I mostly preach to the female side and the monastic side. I don't talk much about men, father. Why? I feel that men have fewer of these coarse faults. Women have more.

And one must remain pure. The monastic lineage is a generation that has many precepts to uphold. The precept of restraint is immense. Therefore, because there is a greater chance of breaking them, I emphasize both sides. The reason is the Buddha at home — the mother. And the Buddha at the temple, representing the Buddha, to lead the family, including the children, to Nirvana. So, these two should lead to Nirvana. If these two groups do not strive, if they do not become pioneers, if they do not make an effort, if they do not purify themselves, the lineage will not attain Nirvana; the lineage will go to hell.

Just go to a funeral house and see the truth. Find the difference between men and women. The spiritual difference between men and women becomes apparent when you go to a funeral house. Men don't wail, do they? They don't, right? They don't. Otherwise, they have no mouth. They would wail even more. Good wailing. But they don't. They watch silently and do what is necessary.

Women? Oh, they tell a lot of strange lies by the time the funeral is over. "They didn't care, not even a mustard seed's worth of care," they didn't look at it spiritually. But they were treated with amazing care. They look at that decaying corpse and say, "So, how are we going to live? Who will be there for these children after tomorrow? How will we live? Even if you left us..." Her loss isn't that the boss died. "Who will be there for company? Who will feed us? Who will look after the little ones?" They cry about the loss that occurred.

"As the noble one who brought me to this exalted position of 'Buddha at home,' I came with you as a noble Bodhisattva lady of the Yashodhara lineage, without any lack or loss, just as I worshipped your feet on that wedding day, and as the noble one to be worshipped throughout this entire journey of life. Are you the same? Therefore, from today onwards, may you not encounter hellish realms for this journey, until you attain Nirvana throughout samsara, birth after birth." Oh, I came looking for a woman like that, but I haven't found one yet, I haven't found one yet in this journey of life. What I found were ostentatious, pretentious, arrogant, hateful, wrathful, and very conceited people.

Is what I said a lie? Have you ever seen a conflict between an uncle and a nephew anywhere? Kekanadura. Uncles and nephews don't have conflicts. Throughout world history, uncles and nephews have been peaceful. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are like a cobra and a viper. The OIC is a witness. More cases were sent. Yes, they don't care, they disregard each other. They are divided over property and land.

Who set relatives against relatives? Who made relatives non-relatives? Who set fire to those families? Look closely. Why are these two women? This is a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. There should be metta (loving-kindness) as if they were a mother and daughter. You come to the temple more often to observe precepts, you give alms more often, you accumulate more merit. But men don't do that much, they keep their distance. However, men silently approach Nirvana little by little. You, by struggling and acting, gradually approach hell. Strive to free yourself from that.