His/her family did not approve of this relationship - Kalana

Famous actor Kalana Gunasekara, who entered married life last week, has provided details to a weekend newspaper about how his wedding took place and about his bride. The following is that discussion.

Question: How did Kalana first meet Ruchini...?

A few years ago, there was a program at the Gayathri Kemadasa Foundation. I also participated in it. That's when I first met Ruchini. We got to know each other. However, at that time, there wasn't much conversation between us.

A little while later, my book 'Premaniya Sara' was launched at 'Taprobane'. I think that was about a year ago. During that time, I was mostly involved with the book. It was at that point that a good understanding developed between Ruchini and me.

That acquaintance, which started there, turned into a beautiful loving bond over a period of about six years.

Question: What were the special qualities Ruchini possessed that made you stop at her heart and love her...?

Ruchini is a good person who understood me very well. That was the main reason my heart stopped at her. She is a singer. Our life is very unusual. Not everyone might be able to endure the things that come with that life.

However, I believe Ruchini will be able to understand and endure all of it. The love between us wasn't something that happened all at once. It was a love that gradually grew as we understood each other through our conversations. Over many years, that love grew slowly, like a tree. That's why I feel the roots of that tree are very strong.

Question: What is Ruchini's profession...?

Ruchini has done several jobs. Initially, she worked at a financial institution. Meanwhile, her connection with art in her life also gradually progressed. Especially due to her bond with music, she has also worked in this field as a singer.

She has composed songs, participated in various programs. She has also done a lot of work with the Gayathri Kemadasa Foundation as well as in opera productions.

Question: Were there no obstacles to Kalana's and Ruchini's love...? Did you receive parental blessings...?

Initially, there were quite a few obstacles to our love. Especially, her family was not in favor of this relationship.

Actually, they had valid reasons for that. But amidst all of that, we were not ready to give up the bond that had formed between us.

Over time, just as we understood each other, her mother and father also began to understand us. That's how things gradually changed. As of today, a situation has arisen where we can interact with them very amicably. We have also received their blessings.

Question: Who decided the timeline for the wedding ceremony...?

We prepared for this for about eight months to a year. For a long time, I was a person who lived in doubt about whether to get married or not. I didn't have much faith in it.

But at one point, I felt that we needed to change, to look at life differently. I felt that we needed something to lighten the burden we both carry on this journey of life, to strengthen ourselves further. That's why I came to the decision that we should enter married life.

With that decision, we reserved dates and finally decided on this day.

Question: Are the wedding arrangements happening according to your ideas or Ruchini's ideas...?

To be honest, as a man, I was eagerly looking forward to seeing Ruchini beautifully adorned as a bride. Every girl has wonderful dreams about her wedding ceremony. I know how beautifully those dreams reside in her heart.

The biggest thing I could do for my love was to watch those dreams come true. To experience that joy with her. My love lies there. That's why I allowed her to do anything she wanted for the wedding ceremony.

Seeing her dreams come true exactly like that is a great joy for me too.

Question: Kalana is an actor as well as a good scriptwriter. How does he get the mental freedom and relaxation he needs from her...?

Ruchini was with me when some of the scripts and stories were being written in the past.

When I see the male perspective in a script, she sees the female character. Therefore, we both see the same event in two different ways.

For example, the way a man sees a rose and the way a woman sees a rose can sometimes be different. That difference was very evident in our conversations.

Therefore, when discussing a script or a character, I have had quite a few conversations with Ruchini.

Question: Now the two of you have joined a new nest. How is life...?

Life is very good. While our wedding ceremony was on the 23rd, I attended the media screening of the film 'Gara' on the 22nd. Afterwards, on the 25th, I rejoined the filming of 'Dharma Yuddaya'. After that, I have to participate in other filmings for several more days.

During that time, Ruchini will stay with her parents. After that, we are preparing to start our own life in our own home, which we have set aside for ourselves. I believe that no matter what comes our way in the future, with our mutual cooperation, understanding each other, we will be able to go on this journey simply and happily.

-Dishani Jayamali Karunaratne (Sandella)

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